What Is Counselling?
“Many people go through crises in their lives without really having somebody to talk to. Or they do have somebody, but do not want to discuss particular issues. Many people accumulate distress inside (which sometimes attracts them to ways of ‘numbing out’ – alcohol, television and other blessings of modern life). We all have some experience of what a difference a good chat and a sympathetic listening ear can make. Now multiply that by ten, and you have good therapy.” – Michael Soth
Mostly, counselling is about learning to be with our vulnerability and we learn that by being in the presence of another who accepts us wholly as we are. That is the real art of counselling that change is born from. It is not a fight for change. Paradoxically, it is our vulnerability that makes us powerful.
My approach is particularly influenced by the view that it is the relationship itself, between therapist and client, that soothes. Some of the most profound and beautiful moments in my life have been shared in therapeutic work.
The therapy may work through layers of insecurity, inadequacy, depression, anger, rage and hate, as well as contacting more sublime feelings of love and intimacy, exploring patterns within the psyche and the many aspects to a client’s identity, revealing the deeper self. I work to explore and discover together the path of healing that is right for my client’s, so that they can move on, into the life that they choose.
Gregg Palmer currently works in private practice at the Psychosynthesis & Education Trust and is the Director of CCHcic.